Self Goals

“If you feel that your dreams aren’t coming true, you might think that you need to do more, or to think and strategize more. In fact, what you might need is less—less noise coming to you from both inside and outside—so that you have the space for your heart’s truest intention to germinate and flourish.” Thich Nhat Hanh, in ”Silence”.

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In life, it’s far more productive to have self-goals, rather than fully focusing on external material oriented goals. Of course, we are all conditioned to compete and succeed in life. However, what we lose along the way is a deeper connection to who we are in life. Thus, through this loss of accessing a higher percentage of our innate potential, we become shells based on our ego identity; constantly negotiating who we are with our reflection of the world around us.

People are becoming increasingly ubiquitously conditioned into the narrow roles of who they are allowed to be as living beings. Almost everyone is living on the outside of their exterior at a skin-deep level of self-awareness and internal awareness is severely lacking.

What I found was that if you shift your motivation towards working on yourself, through getting to know what lies beneath the surface and what you really have a deep passion for. Accessing this innate sense of self is very powerful and inevitably will increase everyone’s level of focus and clarity in following external goals.

“Learn to discern if a given situation is one you should try to change or one you should accept.” Amma

I found that most of my self-goals centred on self acceptance and self value. As this awareness grew, I realized I had to make drastic changes in several of the external ‘friendships’ I was having. It was one of many steps I began to implement in my life, regarding the boundaries that emulated greater self respect and self value.

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ~ Jack Kornfield

In addition, I found that when your goals relate to only what you can do to change yourself, a lot can be done. This also allows you to be honest with yourself and really pinpoint the areas of your life that you need to enhance, as well as the areas that you need to let go of.

In terms of career focus, self-goals are about connecting to what you have always felt a deep interest or passion for in your life. Perhaps, you don’t need to make it your career, yet by increasing those activities into your day to day life, it can have a significantly more positive effect, than ignoring this inner energy.  

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Its All In The Name

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” Jack Kornfield

Idaho, central, lightning storm over the White Cloud Mountains at sunset

Idaho, central, lightning storm over the White Cloud Mountains at sunset

We all come into this world with names given to us by our families. Traditionally, names were used to extend the family lineage, through the reuse of various family members names and the continual usage of the paternal last name. However, in this day and age, there is more freedom of lateral movement against the traditional practices of the past. We have more freedom to work with our own identity, finding greater use of self expression through what feels right to each one of us.

Of course, many people lack the awareness or consciousness to actually question the ‘identity’ assigned to them through their families and society. Most people feel much safer abiding very closely by the norms of society and the traditional practices of the family. However, in this way life can be an endless expression of conditioning, with very little true authenticity of real freedom to have the awareness to make choices that are based on real knowledge. Most, if not all of us are caught in this massive and hegemonic pull of fitting into a homogenized sense of ‘norm’, that is actually very disturbing, as it benefits many institutional bodies, far more than us as individuals.In my own experience of life, I understand the necessity of abiding by certain cultural and social norms, yet I also see a strong benefit in living my life as the person I feel myself to be. Perhaps, this can be seen as egocentric and selfish, yet identity for me is something that I feel on a very deep inner level. One example is how we use our name as our means of prime identity. In my own life, I never ever resonated with my birth name, it meant nothing to me, it felt odd and hollow, yet I used it until I became more engrossed in spirituality and realized I could use a spiritual name. I could not wait to change my name to something that resonated with who I felt myself to be.

In the last five years, I received a name that deeply resonated with me and began using it exclusively. Many people, mostly in my own family thought that I was using another name to be someone else. The truth of the matter is that the birth name that I used most of my life was not me, while my spiritual name resonated so deeply, it is my true name. I have even had many dreams where I am explaining to others how when I first received my name, it was like I finally had my real name in this life. This is something that is very difficult to explain to others, as it must be directly experienced, rather than theoretically discussed. The feeling was as though I finally had my own name, a name that expressed who I am on an inner level, who I have always been.

Through this experience I recently had a job, where they called me by my birth name as it’s my ‘legal’ name. I felt a deep emptiness and only registered to that name because I know it used to be what I was previous called. After one year, I realized that I can no longer go by my birth name, it means nothing to me, I have no connection to it, in any way. Thus, I am changing my name legally to what resonates with me, as the person who I am in this life.

In my life, I feel I have the autonomy and freedom to make such choices for myself and I will continue to make many similar choices regarding how I wish to live my life, as my life belongs to me and me alone.

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